Who would you seek advice for a happy life on your wedding day? When Andrew Toh and Natasha Kwek of Choa Chu Kang Ward got married last weekend, they asked NUS Humanities Professor Greg Petersen. Greg has lived in Singapore for 13 years and works with young adults everyday at the university. He has been a Bishop and has five children. No one is more qualified.
Andrew and Natasha are graduating this year: he from NUS in Economics in December, and she from Nanyang Polytechnic in nursing in August.
What makes a happy marriage?
Painting the big picture, Greg said that social science research worldwide indicates that the vast majority of people want a happy marriage. However, most don’t do what is necessary to have a happy marriage. He highlighted that celestial marriage is a part of the Plan of Salvation, and including God in it offers the best chance for a happy marriage.
Specific things to do in a happy marriage
Going into some specific things that a couple should do, Greg offered the following:
- Unplug from technology often so that you can spend real time together, face-to-face.
- Institute Executive Family Council as a means of communication. Use it to discuss family and important matters and make your decisions unanimously. Invite the Holy Ghost as a participant in your discussions.
- Have your companion-prayer every night before you retire.
- Hold your family home evening weekly, and study the scriptures together everyday.
- Go for a walk every day and talk things over as you walk.
- In all that you do, be sure to invite the Lord into your life.